Writing this blog after reading a news article in Times of India newspaper Kochi edition dated 19/12/17. It is regarding an unfortunate 17 year old boy who when promised a kiss from his girlfriend stole his Dad's car at 1.30 am but could not do it because of the police patrolling and
ended up in a well
I found this news as cute as it could be. The embarrassment the young boy felt at that time will turn in to the sweetest memory which he will treasure all through his life. It reminded me of the things that I have done during my teenage days. Things that made my parents and teachers say "Hey Congratulations.. You are a disgrace" which that time caused me a great heartache.
I know my friends who had done similar or more horrifying things than this and got humiliated big time. When we meet now, trust me these are memories which make us laugh out loud. I often wonder, if we have not done all those things and got humiliated in front of lot of people, our lives would have been so boring and full of regret.
Embarrassment often manifests when a weakness or an inadequacy has been made public. You might also feel embarrassed because you’re feeling guilty about something you did that has now become public knowledge. Likewise you might end up feeling embarrassed when you’re caught doing something that is socially unacceptable. These events can often make you feel incredibly uncomfortable and self-conscious. All of a sudden the hidden secrets you’ve been holding close to your heart are now in the public realm. It’s just difficult to bear. You are now open to judgment, ridicule, rejection and criticism. All of a sudden it seems as though embarrassment isn’t the only fear you have to deal with.
You’ve probably heard the saying that some people have absolutely no shame. These are the kinds of people that don’t often concern themselves with what others think or say about them. These are the kinds of people who never get embarrassed and are often very open about every aspect of their lives. They don’t care about being rejected or criticized. In fact, they seem to revel in the fact that other people don’t approve of their decisions, actions or behavior. They think this way because they feel comfortable and secure in their own skin. They are confident and have high levels of self-esteem and self-belief.
In contrast, a person who is afraid of being embarrassed is often very insecure. They have very low levels of self-esteem, and they are always fearing judgment, ridicule and criticism. These are the kinds of people who often try to please others. They try their hardest to live up to other people’s expectations of them. However, they tend to feel that they are not quite good enough. As a result they are afraid to make mistakes and afraid of failing. This makes them hesitant in their actions and that is when the fear of embarrassment manifests in their lives.
Suffering from the fear of embarrassment can actually be quite debilitating. It will tend to stifle your confidence while completely undermining your social and personal growth. It will discourage you from taking the necessary risks that will help you take advantage of opportunities and get ahead in this world, and it will prevent you from attempting new things. You will rarely if ever step outside your comfort zone because you fear that you will not look favorable in other people’s eyes. It could also very well be that you’re somewhat of a perfectionist. Unless you do things perfectly, you will never be good enough. And if you’re not good enough, then obviously that makes you a failure.
Do things that make you happy even if you feel like you are going to fail miserably at the end. Happiness is the key. So young man, keep your head high and take all the criticism, ridicule and embarrassment positively because its is going to be one of the best memories you will ever have.
ended up in a well
I know my friends who had done similar or more horrifying things than this and got humiliated big time. When we meet now, trust me these are memories which make us laugh out loud. I often wonder, if we have not done all those things and got humiliated in front of lot of people, our lives would have been so boring and full of regret.
Embarrassment often manifests when a weakness or an inadequacy has been made public. You might also feel embarrassed because you’re feeling guilty about something you did that has now become public knowledge. Likewise you might end up feeling embarrassed when you’re caught doing something that is socially unacceptable. These events can often make you feel incredibly uncomfortable and self-conscious. All of a sudden the hidden secrets you’ve been holding close to your heart are now in the public realm. It’s just difficult to bear. You are now open to judgment, ridicule, rejection and criticism. All of a sudden it seems as though embarrassment isn’t the only fear you have to deal with.
You’ve probably heard the saying that some people have absolutely no shame. These are the kinds of people that don’t often concern themselves with what others think or say about them. These are the kinds of people who never get embarrassed and are often very open about every aspect of their lives. They don’t care about being rejected or criticized. In fact, they seem to revel in the fact that other people don’t approve of their decisions, actions or behavior. They think this way because they feel comfortable and secure in their own skin. They are confident and have high levels of self-esteem and self-belief.
In contrast, a person who is afraid of being embarrassed is often very insecure. They have very low levels of self-esteem, and they are always fearing judgment, ridicule and criticism. These are the kinds of people who often try to please others. They try their hardest to live up to other people’s expectations of them. However, they tend to feel that they are not quite good enough. As a result they are afraid to make mistakes and afraid of failing. This makes them hesitant in their actions and that is when the fear of embarrassment manifests in their lives.
Suffering from the fear of embarrassment can actually be quite debilitating. It will tend to stifle your confidence while completely undermining your social and personal growth. It will discourage you from taking the necessary risks that will help you take advantage of opportunities and get ahead in this world, and it will prevent you from attempting new things. You will rarely if ever step outside your comfort zone because you fear that you will not look favorable in other people’s eyes. It could also very well be that you’re somewhat of a perfectionist. Unless you do things perfectly, you will never be good enough. And if you’re not good enough, then obviously that makes you a failure.
Do things that make you happy even if you feel like you are going to fail miserably at the end. Happiness is the key. So young man, keep your head high and take all the criticism, ridicule and embarrassment positively because its is going to be one of the best memories you will ever have.
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